When you look up “how to get an Asian girlfriend,” an alarming number of articles come up across multitudes of websites and blogs that, in my opinion, are so incredulous it makes you wonder if they are written seriously or as a joke. They also make me a little embarrassed to be looking at them in public (my brightness is turned to the lowest setting right now). Unfortunately, it appears that these articles are written seriously. Here are some of the highlights of the advice I found online.
Cosmopolitan article: “22 Things to Know Before Dating an Asian Girl” by Helin Jung
- “I like to use chopsticks in new and interesting ways.”
Is this supposed to be an innuendo…?
- “My parents will immediately reject you as a suitor.”
Well, that’s a stereotype.
“How to Get a Hot Asian Girlfriend” by Dean Cortez
- “Asian women want to be around a masculine presence, because they are so utterly feminine. This is not the case with a lot of American women these days.”
*cue rant about how Asian Americans are Americans,and the other many, many wrong things about this statement*
How to Get An Asian Girlfriend by Derek Strong
You don’t even need to spend $12.99 to realize how problematic this book is – the title and the summary are more than enough.
- “Derek Strong is an average white guy who loves Asian girls…[this book] is the step-by-step guide for a regular guy to get a hot Asian girlfriend, right here in the U.S., right here in your hometown. You don’t need to travel, and you don’t need to learn any Asian languages.”
This description shows that to him, “Asian girls” are merely objects and tokens that can be collected all at men’s convenience.
This book as you would hope, has low ratings, but not for the reasons you might think. The reviews are from people who bought the book genuinely seeking Strong’s advice and blame the book for being useless because the tactics offered did not work.
Reading this advice may seem funny because of how terrible the advice is, but in all seriousness, it’s also degrading. Though we’re conventionally advised to “just be you!,” the preconceived notions that surround us make it difficult when you know that some people aren’t seeing you for your personality or character but for your appearance and the stereotypes attached to it. But we shouldn’t let this hold us back – we know our own worth.